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I go along with what my partner wants.
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I avoid bringing up issues that might lead to conflict.
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In conflicts, I listen to my partner's concerns and take them seriously.
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I resent being told what to do.
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I fly into a rage when my partner treats me badly.
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I agree to do tasks for my partner and then don’t follow through.
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When my partner gets angry at me, I become frightened and withdraw.
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I expect my partner to do things my way because I know best.
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I can assert myself to get what I want.
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I try to please my partner or take care of them so they won't have anything to confront me about.
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I can disagree if I am accused of something that isn't true.
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I am good at working together with my partner to meet both of our needs.
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When necessary, I can bring up an issue in the relationship I am unhappy about.
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I rebel against my partner.
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In conflicts, I give in or take care of my partner for a while, but then at some point, I blow up at them.
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It is hard for me to say No to my partner.
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My partner says I do things that annoy them even though I am trying my best.
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It is important for me to be in charge.
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I interact with my partner in such a way that conflicts don’t arise.
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I take initiative to make my life work the way I want
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I can be receptive and follow my partner’s lead, without giving up my power.
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I understand and feel compassion for my partner when we're in conflict.
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I am competitive and want to win and be at the top.
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When my partner blames me for some difficulty, I tell them that it is actually their fault.
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When my partner blames me, I assume that it is my fault without considering what I really believe.
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I act stubborn with my partner even when I know I shouldn’t.
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If necessary, I can set limits on my partner's angry or abusive behavior without over-reacting.
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I resist being like my partner.
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When my partner confronts me, I give in to end the conflict.
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It is hard for me to express my feelings when they are different from what my partner feels.
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In discussions, I stand behind what I believe.
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I am open to my partner’s opinions without giving up my own.
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I feel angry because I have been victimized by my partner.
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I express my feelings and desires to my partner.
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I fight my partner to have a say in how things are done.
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I try to be nice to my partner rather than expressing what I really think.
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I try to please my partner, but he or she feels frustrated with me.
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I feel like I need to be in control for things to be safe.
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When I bring up my concerns with my partner, he or she doesn’t listen to me.
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I can express my concerns to my partner without being judgmental.
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I can stand up for what I believe in a conflict.
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I like it when we both express ourselves strongly.
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I value a harmonious relationship.
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I try to make my partner happy without paying attention to my own needs.
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When my anger does get triggered, I let go of it after a while and reach out to my partner.
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I expect to have things my way.
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Even though I know what I want, I take into account what my partner wants, too.
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In conflicts, I try to justify what I did.
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When I get angry in a conflict, I refrain from acting it out.
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I reach out to my partner for what I want.
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When my partner brings up a conflict, I change the subject or leave the room.
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I point out my partner’s problems in angry, judgmental ways.
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In conflicts, I end up trying to prove that it wasn't my fault.
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When my partner confronts me, I become frozen and unable to communicate effectively.
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I own my part of problems.
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I can assert myself even if it might lead to conflict.
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If my partner asks me to do something that won't work for me, I can say No.
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