What Drives Me to Please People?
- Do you frequently go along with what people want?
- Do your needs get overlooked?
- Are you always trying to make people happy?
- Are you stressed out because you say Yes to every request?
- Are you afraid to assert yourself?
This quiz will help you to explore your underlying psychological motivations for pleasing people, so you can work through these issues and change your behavior. Your people pleasing may be driven by fears, defenses, and inner conflicts that you are only partially aware of, which are your psychological motivations
. This quiz will help you to understand these motivations and what to do about them.
As you look over these questions, keep in mind that a (subconscious) part of you might be afraid of something even if you aren't rationally afraid of it.
: As you think about which motivations apply to you, please don’t judge yourself
. It is common for our Inner Critics to use this information to make us feel bad about ourselves. They tell us that we are really screwed up, that we’ll never be happy. Don’t believe these self-attacks. Everyone has a variety of fears, needs, and other motivations underlying their behavior. You aren’t bad or pathological or inadequate because of the ones you have. If an Inner Critic is beating you up about your fears, don't take it seriously. If you can take in this new information from an open place, it will help you to see yourself more clearly.
Adopt an attitude of looking at yourself objectively and compassionately as you explore this list. This approach is enormously helpful in learning about yourself. You had to develop these patterns of defense because of the ways you may have been hurt or the type of parenting you received when you were very young and vulnerable. They aren’t your fault. Appreciate yourself for being interested in delving into this material so you can make changes in your life.
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