Accessing Emotional WoundsStage 2 is the one of the five STJ stages that allows you to explore the childhood experiences that underlie your emotional wounds. You can also explore an emotional wound on its own (not as part of the five stages for a pattern).
Accessing Emotional Wounds
Painful and debilitating feelings can come up when exploring emotional wounds. Working with such wounds might trigger intense emotions which could be overwhelming for certain people. Some people have so much pain and trauma in their background that this work would be too upsetting for them.
Therefore, in order to explore a wound you must be OK'd by a therapist or counselor, who gives you an access code. Once you enter the access code, you will have access to your wounds.
Note: You don't have to be working with a therapist; you just need to be OK'd by a therapist. See below.
Many users get a tremendous amount out of STJ even without Stage 2, so you don't need to get an access code for STJ, but having one will allow you to get the most out of STJ.
Being OK'd by Your Therapist
If you are currently working with a therapist or counselor, or if you have in the past, ask them to obtain an access code. Click here and send your therapist the link to that page, which is a letter from me to a therapist explaining how this works. If you yourself are a licensed therapist or counselor, you can get a code to give yourself access to exploring your wounds.
Once you have an access code, click here to enter your access code. Then you will need to enroll for STJ at the Transformation Level or enroll for specific wounds that you want to work on.
Being Evaluated by One of Our Therapists
If you don't have a therapist or counselor, you can go through a simple evaluation with one of our therapists, or with me, Jay. Click here to find a therapist or counselor who is willing to evaluate whether working with wounds is appropriate for you and give you an access code. I am on the list.
How much will this cost? This is up to each therapist, and it also depends on how much time the evaluation takes. I have found that for most people, it only takes half an hour, and I charge a special low fee for STJ users--$50.
Click here to see a list of the wounds in STJ. You can read them through and also decide if you want to start work on one right now or later (if you have an access code).
and start exploring yourself
A wound is an underlying psychological place of pain or negative belief about yourself or the world.
A wound is caused by an incident or series of incidents or a relationship in childhood (or occasionally in adulthood) in which you were harmed, frightened, or rejected in some way, or in which you didn't get important needs met. The result is unresolved pain or trauma. For example, the Domination Wound leads you to expect to be dominated or to be afraid of being dominated. It is caused by being controlled too much as a child.
If you know IFS, a wound is a type of burden carried by an exile. For example, if you have the Abandonment Wound, it means that you have an exile who was abandoned.
You must have an access code in order to work on wounds. Click here for more information about this.
"Transformation" Enrollment Level
- Psychological insight
- Behavior change
- Experiential depth (IFS) therapy
- Personality transformation
For people who want to…
- Dedicate themselves to personal growth work
- Engage in depth therapy for full transformation
- Explore and heal their childhood wounds
- Augment their psychotherapy with self-therapy
for more information.
XStages of STJ
Stage 1. Exploring a pattern.
Stage 2. Exploring the emotional wounds that underlie it.
Stage 3. Understanding the capacity that transforms it.
Stage 4. Working through the fears that drive the pattern.
Stage 5. Creating a real-time practice to activate the capacity.