The Self-Esteem Dimension

Patterns

There are three problematic patterns in the Self-Esteem Dimension—Inner Critic, Prideful, and Defensive. You may click on each link to learn more about the pattern and then decide if you want to explore it, now or later.

The Inner Critic Pattern involves judging yourself so you feel bad about yourself—worthless, inadequate, stupid, wrong, ashamed, guilty, and so on. This pattern may also involve pushing yourself to be a certain way or doubting yourself.

The Prideful Pattern involves inflating your self-esteem based on qualities you may not have, coupled with a tendency to look down on others. This pattern can also involve a distorted emphasis on engaging in activities aimed at puffing up your self-esteem.

The Inner Defender Pattern involves arguing with or fighting your Inner Critic—trying to convince it that you are OK or rebelling against it. (This pattern is not yet in STJ.)


Capacities

There are two complementary healthy capacities in the Self-Esteem Dimension--Self-Reflection and Self-Esteem. You may click on each link to learn more about the capacity and then decide if you want to work on developing it, now or later.

The Self-Reflection Capacity involves being able to look at yourself and be aware of your strengths and limitations without judgment. Your Inner Mentor helps you deal with ways of behaving that aren’t what you would like. It helps you work to improve yourself while also accepting yourself just as you are. It supports you in making changes in caring, encouraging ways. (This capacity is not yet in STJ.)

The Self-Esteem Capacity involves feeling good about yourself just as you are. Your Inner Champion supports you in being yourself and feeling good about yourself.





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