Witnessing and Support Many people do best in working on psychological material like this if they have someone supporting them that they trust. Other people like to work alone.
How to Work with a WitnessThere are two ways to work with a witness:
1. Your witness could be with you as you work on Self-Therapy Journey, either in person or on the phone. They can follow what is happening on your computer by using a program that shows it on their computer. This can be done through Skype screen sharing, or you can use a program like mikogo to share screens. This way they can provide emotional support and be a sounding board as you are using the application.
2. You could talk with your witness after each session (and possibly show them your reports) to share with them what you did and how it affected you.
It can be easier to be thoughtful and introspective when you are talking with another person. And perhaps the biggest advantage of a witness is that they can help you stay with STJ. You tell them that you are planning to work with Self-Therapy Journey on, say, Tuesday and you make plans to talk with them that night or the next day. This will help you follow through and do it. This accountability will especially be helpful when you are doing the homework practice that you set up in Stage 5.
It is especially important to have a supportive witness when you are working on psychological issues that stir up painful emotions or strong defenses. If you find yourself avoiding Self-Therapy Journey or getting too upset emotionally, finding a supportive witness might help you stay with the process.
Who Could be Your Witness?1. Your Therapist. If you are in therapy, your therapist can be your witness, though there are advantages to having another witness as well.
2. A Friend. You can ask a friend of yours to be your witness. Choose a friend who is a good listener and who won't try to tell you what they think is going on with you and what you should do about it, unless you ask. It will also be helpful if your friend is interested in psychology and personal growth.
3. A Buddy. If you don't have a friend you want to work with, you can find a buddy from other users in our online community. It might even be someone who is working on the same issue as you are. Even though you may find your buddy in the online community, your interactions with that person can be private, over the telephone or by email.
4. An Experienced Buddy. Some of the users who have some experience with STJ have volunteered to be mentors for new users. Click here to see a list of these people and contact them. If you want to consider becoming a Mentor, click here.
Professional SupportThere are a number of ways to get professional support with STJ.
Working with a Therapist Guide. Work with a therapist or counselor who knows STJ well enough to guide you through it. Click Finding a Therapist Guide to see a list of therapists who know STJ and are willing to guide you in using it without requiring you to become a full client of theirs. (If you want to consider becoming a Therapist Guide, click here.)
STJ Coaching. I, Jay Earley, offer individual coaching on STJ to help you get the most out of it. I only charge you for the time we actually use, at $3/minute.
Working with an IFS Therapist. Some STJ users have found it most helpful to work with an IFS therapist along with their STJ work. You can check out the list of Therapist Guides.
Online Community We have an online community of users who connect with each other, share their experiences, and help each other. There are discussion forums where you can share what you are discovering about yourself and your efforts to change. You can also learn from what other people share. And you can ask questions and get responses not only from other users but also from our staff.
Anyone can join the online community. You don't have to be an STJ user. And if you are an STJ user, you must register separately for the online community.
We have groups within the online community that are oriented toward specific patterns, such as procrastination or eating issues. Others are for all STJ users. We are also planning to have group meetings on the phone and perhaps eventually in person.
Click here to join the community and learn more about it.