• Do you overeat to soothe yourself when you are upset?
  • When you lose weight, do you always gain it back?
  • Is food the only love you get?
  • When you intend to eat just a couple cookies, do you finish the whole box?
  • Is most of your day spent obsessing about food?
  • Do you feel ashamed of yourself after binge eating?
This corresponds to Indulger in the Pattern System. Click the pattern for more information.
XThe Indulger Pattern involves overeating and often obsessing about food. Your overeating is driven by unconscious or unresolved emotional issues. Even if you love the taste of certain foods and revel in the sensuality of taste, overeating comes from a deeper psychological place. It is an attempt to soothe yourself, to meet needs for nurturing, or to distract or numb you so you won't feel painful emotions that are coming to the surface.

If you have the Indulger Pattern, you may be overweight and feel shame about the way you look. You may binge at times and obsess about food and weight. You may eat food that isn't good for you, or perhaps your eating dulls your energy.

You can transform your Overeating
and develop healthy eating habits for weight loss.

Self-Therapy Journey is an interactive online tool
for resolving psychological issues such as Overeating.

With Self-Therapy Journey, you can develop Conscious Consumption, which means...
  • Stop eating when you are full.
  • Know the difference between hunger and your other needs.
  • Eat a healthy diet.
  • Lose weight -- and keep it off!
  • Be relaxed around food.
  • Nurture yourself in a loving way
This will ultimately lead to…
  • Feeling good about yourself
  • Feeling vibrant and attractive
  • Being healthy and fit
  • Feeling confident in social settings
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You can create a personalized practice
for activating it in your life instead of Overeating.

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Overeating Psychology Quiz
Click here to take a quiz to discover the underlying psychological dynamics behind your overeating.

Eating Issues Email Sequence
Click here to receive an email sequence on changing your eating dynamics and behavior. You will receive an email every few days describing a step in the change process for eating issues, illustrated with a person's story. 

What People Are Saying

Current weight-loss programs appeal to our fantasies about fast and easy change and don’t address the emotional, behavioral, and cognitive restructuring that is required to sustain your target weight. Dr. Jay Earley has created an online program, Self-Therapy Journey, to help us understand and modify common eating patterns, such as emotional eating to soothe ourselves, self-berating thoughts about overeating, and “zoning out” so that we aren’t aware of what we eat.  No other weight management program exists that even attempts to address these core psychological patterns.  

The system includes an evidence-based psychotherapy called Internal Family Systems, which is user friendly and includes mindfulness and meditation. This makes Self-Therapy Journey a comprehensive interactive online tool for managing weight.  If you can’t afford individual therapy and want help on your own time-frame, this may be the journey for you.

--Denise Ray, MSW, LGSW


Self Therapy Journey is a unique tool, giving you the power to take charge of disordered eating. You can be confident of getting to the root of the issue, not just dealing with the symptom—excessive weight gain—but the emotional roots.  You are not judged but rather given a sense of hope. Anyone who has struggled to gain control of their eating will recognize the different patterns involved—the Indulger, the Food Controller, and particularly the Foggy Pattern, which seem to be conspire against us being able to tackle eating issues. With Self-Therapy Journey, you can be confident that no stone will be left unturned. You will see the dynamics of the different parts and their roles in your internal struggle. With this understanding, you can have true hope of finally regaining a healthy relationship with food.
--Alison Watson, BA Hons Counseling, MBACP

I felt like the scale was never going to budge from 207.  Overeating and my battle with the scales has been with me since grade school and I just turned 61.  I knew in my heart that the issues were emotional.  I felt compelled to eat in order to quell pain, anger, and loneliness. Then I started with Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS).  After two significant unburdenings and the support found through a phone class, my whole attitude toward food changed. I am now able to pass by tables loaded with yummies and not give them a second thought. Food is now a way to fuel my body, not a way to silence the internal screams. This morning I weighed in at 171, a weight I haven’t reached in over 25 years.

You can have the life you have always dreamed of,
at a tiny fraction of the cost of therapy!
Just $25/month!

Self-Therapy Journey is a powerful tool
for transforming your Overeating
and cultivating your Conscious Consumption Capacity.

But that's not all!
It works with many other psychological issues as well.
It will help you work through a wide variety of patterns
and develop many different capacities.

You Can...
  • Take command of your personal growth
  • Work at your own pace in your own time
  • Heal your emotional wounds
  • Gain self-confidence and courage
  • Open to intimacy and love
  • Feel hope and optimism about your life
    - each and every day

You can get these results with a good therapist and a powerful method of therapy. But this is so expensive and time-consuming!

Discover how the powerful inner process of Self-Therapy Journey can give much the same results. It is an interactive web application that includes check lists, stories, guided meditations, journaling, customized reports, personalized homework practices, an online community, mentors, and much more.

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Self-Therapy Journey is brilliant. It's been an absolutely great experience to use it. Every time I had a thought like, "What about this?" there was something in the online system to handle it.

-- Athena Murphy

  I think Self-Therapy Journey is immensely helpful. You can go as deep as you want.

--Elizabeth Moulton,
Clinical Psychologist

  It is impressive that this tool was so helpful to me considering that I have done ample self-work for over 25 years.

-- Faith Curtin, MA
Clinical Psychology

How does Self-Therapy Journey work?

  • You take charge of your growth, in private, at your convenience
  • There are guided meditations for healing your emotional wounds
  • You get a customized report for each pattern, wound, and capacity
  • You engage in homework practices to change your behavior
  • You systematically work on your issues and track your progress
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Working with Self-Therapy Journey will help you:

  • Dramatically increase your self-awareness
  • Understand your partner's behavior (and that of other people close to you)
  • Recognize when you are caught in self-defeating patterns
       - and change them to positive actions - right in the moment
  • Significantly lower your level of stress and reactivity
  • Be free of the constricting hold of old emotional wounds
  • Work through your fears so you can live authentically and courageously
  • Become emotionally stable and healthy, leading to peace and satisfaction
  • Enhance your ability for love, creativity, personal power, and living a life of purpose


I have been a psychotherapist for 40 years. I have helped hundreds of therapy clients to resolve troubling psychological issues and find love, success, and peace. And hundreds more people have used Self-Therapy Journey to make similar changes. My self-published book Self-Therapy has sold nearly 20,000 copies, and I constantly get emails from readers telling me how much the book has changed their lives.

I created Self-Therapy Journey as a place for you to do your own inner work. I want to make psychological healing available to a wide range of people. When you enroll, I will be personally available to support you in using it. I hold free teleseminars and webinars regularly on Self-Therapy Journey. Please join me.

Try Self-Therapy Journey for free, so you personally experience how powerful it is and how easy it is to use.

Jay Earley, PhD


Introductory Video with Jay Earley

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Self-Therapy Journey is
based on two comprehensive
and powerful systems!

1. The Pattern System

The Pattern System is a breakthrough in understanding personality, a Periodic Table for psychology, created by Jay Earley, PhD.

It is a systematic approach to understanding your personality oriented toward psychological healing and personal growth, Self-Therapy Journey contains about 25 patterns, which are ways of behaving and feeling that you might want to change, such as people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-criticism, or avoiding intimacy.

Self-Therapy Journey helps you transform each pattern into a healthy capacity, such as assertiveness, ease, self-esteem, or cooperation. It also allows you to heal 14 different emotional wounds from childhood, such as being deprived or judged or feeling unlovable.

Everyone is unique! And the Pattern System recognizes this. You aren't put into a box. You get to understand the details of your particular personality.

Click here to see three larger charts covering the entire Pattern System.

2. Internal Family Systems Therapy

Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) is on the cutting edge of psychotherapy. It allows you to understand your psyche in a new way and create deep, powerful healing of old emotional wounds and trauma. IFS is a recognized, proven method for individual psychotherapy with a robust training program and thousands of certified therapists.

IFS enables you to understand each of the parts of your psyche, sometimes called sub-personalities. You can think of them as little people inside you. Each has its own perspective, feelings, memories, goals, and motivations. For example, one part of you might be trying to lose weight, and another part might want to eat whatever you want.

We all have many different parts, and we each have a spiritual center, the Self, which is compassionate, understanding, and grounded. Through IFS you can learn to stay in Self, develop a relationship with each of your parts, and heal them.

The key is that the your healing comes from you! This means that you can do IFS on your own, without a therapist, which is what makes Self-Therapy Journey possible.

Click here to watch an interview of Jay Earley on IFS by Tami Simon of Sounds True.

Support and Witnessing

You can work on Self-Therapy Journey completely on your own, or you can find a buddy or mentor from our online community to witness your work and support you in making changes in your life. You can also find a therapist guide from our list of professionals who will guide you in using Self-Therapy Journey and provide additional therapy if you want it.

In our online community, you can join a group of people who are dealing with the same issue. You can share with them your progress in your Self-Therapy Journey work and get answers to questions.


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I have done so much self-help, but this is exciting. It feels really personal.

-- Sandy Formento
Psychotherapy Intern

  The greatest benefit of Self-Therapy Journey is its ability to reveal the hidden motivations behind our limiting patterns. I recommend it highly.

-- Nick Lai,
Personal Development

  The problems that I worked on using Self-Therapy Journey have been resolved. The Pattern System has jump-started a lot of my clients in understanding their issues at the beginning of their work.

-- Cathy Duke
Licensed Counselor

Have other issues you need help with?
Wondering if Self-Therapy Journey deals with them?
Click here to find out

Are you a therapist, coach, or other professional,
wondering about using Self-Therapy Journey with you clients?
Click here for all the information you need

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XWith the Conscious Consumption Capacity, you have the ability to stay grounded in your body and maintain awareness of your process of eating. You are aware of the bodily cues that you need something, and you can sense what you need. If you are hungry, you can tell what you are hungry for. You aren't conflicted about satisfying your need, and you can tell when you are full.

Therefore, you can make appropriate choices about healthy eating and nourish yourself in a loving ways without being overly concerned about food. You don't eat when you're not hungry, you don't overeat, and you choose mostly healthy foods. This allows you to lose weight and keep it off!